I was playing a random civ game last night and I got palmy (which I know is a good civ, but has very hungry peons). Well, I was on one end and the main battle was on the other end. One of my team mates said I need food, to which I dumped him what I had (I did scout out the enemy below me and there was no imediate threat and my team-mate had kills in achievements). And I dumped him more food per his request to take enemy #2. We all took out the last.
At the end of the game in the room, the guy I fed food said to me, man you need to work on getting food and gold, your iron was very slow for being untouched.
I fed the F#@%ER 750 food (actually 938 w/ the tax) from beginning bronze which hampered my economy growth. Further, I was palmy which econ builders are not cheap.
Did I do the right thing, we won, however I did not, should have kept the food and killed him.
Moral of the story....Don't critize those who help you, especially at your request.
One more thing, only the host touches game speed.
IMO
My One Cent